How To Safely Use a Dildo - What you need to know before getting down to it!

Time to check out some facts, sexplorers!

You’re here because you’re curious, or are seeking direct information about adding a phallic toy to your collection. Welcome, we’ve got all your answers right here!

 

So, why dildos?

Some people just fantasise about having complete control over a penis, want to experience one without dealing with other people or emotions, interested in experiencing double penetration or using a strap on with a partner. The options are endless because dildos are meant for anyone and any taste! Dildos are designed to be a penetrative sex toy and can be used vaginally, anally or even orally - whatever your preference might be. 

It doesn’t have to look like a real penis!

Truth, because, sometimes, we don’t want to be staring down the barrel of the actual gun! Dildos come in all shapes, sizes and colours - each with different special features, add ons or strap-on action - depending on what you choose! While you can opt to have an ultra-realistic dildo, complete with veins and testicles at the base, there are other choices too if that’s not for you! White, black, clear, purple, beaded - dildos rarely stay within the lines when it comes to design, which makes them a perfect partner for foreplay and otherworldly stimulation. 

How do I choose the right dildo for me?

It’s a loaded question because you are the best judge of what you are looking for to add to your sexual experience. The main thing to consider is what features you want from your dildo. Do you want features like vibration, clitoral stimulation as well as internal, rotation capability - or - just something small and discreet you can pop in your bag? Take into account your body, and before you jump straight in and grab the biggest one you can find - know that size doesn’t always equal maximum pleasure. Everybody is different, and you may have to try a few sizes to find your perfect fit! Go with your gut when choosing; it’s a great place to start! 

 

Now it’s mine, how do I use the dildo safely?

If you are a first time user, or just want some new insight, here are some tips and tricks to get you ready to use a dildo safely and enjoyably. 

  1. Make sure you are somewhere comfortable. Your own bed or bathroom are great options, maybe with the curtains drawn or doors secured so you can relax in peace. If the silence or household noise is getting to you, put on some ‘in the mood’ music, adult related content, or even a movie in the background. If your dildo is waterproof, the bath or shower are fantastic places to experiment as well! 
  2. Use lube. This is the most important tip. When we are nervous, we can quite literally ‘dry up’ - if using the dildo vaginally. Using lube on both the dildo and yourself will ensure there is no friction when using the dildo to prevent any painful or uncomfortable sensations. Always use lube when using a dildo anally. 
  3. Use condoms. If using the dildo both anally and vaginally in the same sitting, consider using a fresh condom on the dildo when swapping between to avoid passing bacteria back and forth - which could lead to infections. Swapping to a fresh lubed condom is much easier than having to wash the whole dildo in the middle of your experience, and doesn’t kill the mood while still being sanitary. 
  4. Warm into it. Don’t crash the thing inside you willy nilly unless you are already lubricated and interested in that kind of play. Warming up into penetration is the best way to relax into it, be more comfortable and actually enjoy the experience more. 
  5. When using a dildo with a partner, communicate. You don’t have to be medical about it, but make sure you are reading your partner and asking if things don’t seem right - especially when you’re the one using the dildo on their body. You would want your partner to check that you were comfortable when you don’t have control of the dildo - so do the same for them. As with any kind of intimate touching, communication is key to maximise pleasure and minimise risk. 
  6. Experiment with speed and depth. As stated above, do not shove the whole thing into your body straight away - it very rarely will be the experience that you are looking for. Your body is unique, and only by experimenting with different rhythms, depths, and force will you find your ultimate personal climax. 
  7. Always sanitise your dildos. After a sexpedition, it’s time to clean up those toys! Leaving them unwashed will lead to bacteria build-up, which could cause you some infection or discomfort down the line. If you’re sharing the toys with your partner, washing them is just polite, right? So keep em’ clean as per their washing instructions for next time!

So there you have it. Dildos are a super fun way to add a little drama into your existing sexual encounters, and equally fun to use alone! By following these simple tips, you’ll be able to safely and comfortably add a dildo into your lifestyle. 

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