What is a personal lubricant for?
In a nutshell? Lube is a bottled sex aid, providing slippery and wet liquid for intimate encounters to run, well, smoothly. Dry sex is never fun sex, so the wetter, the better.
Personal lubricant is absolutely normal as part of healthy, functional sex lives. Intercourse is uncomfortable at best and painful at worst when "going in dry" without lubricant allowing for friction-free motion. Dry sex can cause some pretty awful situations in the nude. Personal lubricant is essential as part of your side drawer contents when you want to guarantee a comfortable and all-around better sex for both you and your partner. You can also use it with sex toys, which makes solo play much more enjoyable.
Isn't personal lubricant just for anal sex?
Nope. While you MUST use lubricant during anal sex, you also should use it for vaginal sex, sex toy use, and even manual foreplay. The anus can not create its own lubrication at all, so lubricants are 100% essential when diving into the back door.
What about vaginal dryness?
Lube definitely has a somewhat derogatory connection when experiencing vaginal dryness, but it shouldn't be ever seen as a fault of the woman. It is very common for women of all ages to not produce their own lubricant until long into the sexual encounter, or not at all. This can be down to many things like dehydration but it might just be the way her vagina works (every woman is different), so having personal lubrication might be the only way sexual intercourse is possible. Don't consider vaginal dryness as a sure sign of her not being into you or not being into the sex. Just ask. The sensitive skin around the vagina can be prone to damage if you ignore using lubricant, which is a deeply uncomfortable injury to recover from. Reduce friction, dry or not, with a body-safe lubricant.
Lube use with condoms? Yes, it's totally fine. But...
You should always use a condom during a sexual encounter unless you and your partner explicitly discuss the alternative, trust each other's sexual health history, and agree to go forgoing a condom. To protect yourself from STDs and pregnancy, you should always use a condom before getting down to it. That being said, you can't use all kinds of lubricants with condoms safely. So what is the best lube to use with condoms?
The kinds of personal lubrication you can get and how they work with condoms.
The first one we'll talk about is the one we recommend: Water-based lubricant.
This one is a frontrunner for being so versatile, suitable for sensitive skin, silicone-based sex toys and use with latex and non-latex condoms. The last bit is the most important. If you use any old lubricant off the shelf with your latex condoms, there is a much higher chance that the lube will weaken the condom and risk it breaking during intercourse. We can all agree; a broken condom is not a fun discovery. Use a water-based lubricant with condoms for comfort and your peace of mind.
We proudly provide a range of water-based lubricants at Playmate Adult Store safe to use with your latex or non-latex condoms - you can find them here.
A silicone-based lubricant is incredibly popular for its silky smooth feel on your intimate bits and bobs and is hypoallergenic. It is long-lasting but can have adverse reactions to some kinds of condoms, like weakening them and making them prone to breakage. So if you really want to dive in with silicone-based lubricants, you're going to want to do your research on the kind of condoms you're also using.
Going old-school with coconut oil as a personal lubricant isn't the best idea...we'd recommend you leave coconut oil in your frying pan. What about a store-bought oil-based lubricant? Many people choose to buy lubes that are oil-based, probably due to the low maintenance aspect of it. Arguably the lubricant that lasts the longest once applied, oil-based lubricants are great for those who don't suffer from skin irritations or don't need to worry about the effect it'll have on condoms (and it makes a great intimate body massage oil). The downsides of any kind of oil-based lube include stained stains (you'll want to keep any oil-based anything away from nice sheets) and the increased risk of vaginal infections. The natural biome inside women is very complex, and adding any kind of oil to it runs the risk of throwing it all off balance and promoting infections. We'd recommend not going with oil-based lubes unless you know all of the risks.
Yum. Flavoured lube is a really fun way to add some sweetness to your bedroom antics and is often used when folks like to partake in oral sex before and during intercourse. You can also use any water-based lube with your sex toy, silicone or otherwise. We have a range of fruity water-based flavoured lubes you can play with, and they are all safe to use with condoms. Choose from peach, strawberry, lemon, apple or cherry! Find them here.
Lube and trying to conceive.
While lubricant doesn't completely mess up the process of trying to conceive (otherwise, it'd be used as a contraceptive, and no one wants to do that), it has been shown to slow down and reduce the effectiveness of sperm motility. If you are trying to conceive, lubrication is still a great idea, but if you want to steer on the safe side - take more time with foreplay to encourage natural lubrication. Even when trying to conceive, you should not have to put up with uncomfortable sex due to normal vaginal dryness, so listen to your body and seek a specialist fertility lubricant if required.
And there you have it. Personal lubrication is an affordable must-have tool for sex toy play and other sexual activity; it’s just up to you what flavour or type you want to play with. Once you've tried lubed sex, we promise you'll not want to look back.