Strap On Dildos - the ultimate fantasy?

The strap on dildo divides people; there’s no doubt about it. Guys often don't want to know about it or shirk at the idea that there is even a strap on penis out there competing with them. Rest assured, the person you're sexually involved with is unlikely to replace you with a strap on dildo. It's just a toy.

Strap on dildos play a bigger role in bedroom fantasies than most people realise and can provide previously unattainable results when it comes to penetrative pleasure and stimulation for both sexes. Women who want to penetrate suddenly can by becoming a wearer of strap ons, and that in itself is a fantasy worth experiencing.

 

A brief history of the strap on harness and dildo.

The appeal of a strap on harness containing a silicone, wooden, vegetable or even bone dildo dates back thousands of years. Versions of the strap on dildo date back to the Late Stone Age (Upper Paleolithic era) assumed for use between females. These rudimentary sex toys are slightly surprising as a discovery but also a reasonable one since sexual appetites have been colourful since the earliest days of human existence. Why would it take a modern society to develop sex toys of this nature?

Ancient strap on dildos and depictions of their use in art have been discovered in France, Japan, China, prehistoric Europe and even Zanzibar - among many other places throughout history.

 

The suspicious antlers of Europe

The earliest harnesses in Europe appeared to be made out of antlers, in the shape of a perforated baton with tell-tale holes and rings that archaeologists suspect were used to hold ancient sex toys and dildos. This has been contested by experts for years, not wanting to sully the reputation of the multi-faceted and humble man's perforated baton. While a dildo and harness made out of bone don't sound super comfortable, ancient harnesses were more regularly observed to be made out of leather, like they are today.

 

So, what is the appeal of a strap on sex toy? Who is it for?

Strap ons have appealed to lesbian couples and people who enjoy double penetration since aaaaagges ago. They also appeal to heterosexual couples where the male partner has the strap on dildo used on him for anal penetration. Not shocking, considering men have been aware of their prostate since the dawning of time, too. Anyone who didn't have a penis handy may have found a strap on incredibly appealing to add some penetrative sex to their lovemaking.

Today, anyone and everyone can enjoy using strap ons. The dildo itself now can easily look like a non-realistic penis, which is excellent news for people who didn't invite a penis into their bedroom but still want penetrative toys to use with their partners. They can come in vibrant colours, fun shapes, even in vibrating modes, so you can play out any kind of fantasy without having a veined shaft in the room.

Check out Playmate's Strap On Play dildo to see what we mean by 'non-realistic penis'.

And guys, you don’t have to be gay or bisexual to enjoy being penetrated. Hetero couples worldwide enjoy adding a strap on dildo to their sexual agenda for the man’s use. Guys have an incredibly sensitive gland in their anal opening called the prostate, which can deliver insanely good orgasms when stimulated. It’s a totally natural desire to want to experience prostate orgasms with a female partner. Women have long stimulated a guy’s prostate with hands or smaller toys without incident, and it is considered a pretty normal hetero interest. Strap on dildos are simply a progression of that sexual interest. By being able to share that desire with his partner, everyone wins. 

Many strap on harnesses are equipped with a ring or two that can fit different kinds of dildos and vibrators securely for strap on use (particularly those with suction cup bases). By having this versatility, you can collect a large dildo set and choose your sex toy of choice each time you use the harness. 

Find our harness here. Our strap on harness can be used with most dildos with a suction cup base or flared base, which makes it a versatile tool in your sex toy box. (A dildo with a flared base is also great for solo play when you don't need the harness out as it can suction to surfaces...we'll let you do the imagining) The leather harness is customisable, so you can adjust it to fit you nice and snug.

 

Why do many people not like the idea of a strap on sex toy?

Different strokes for different folks, we guess! Many men probably don't like the idea of having their own weapon wielded against them or show no interest in anal sex, which is perfectly normal, as is the contrary.

A woman wearing a strap on dildo can be a jarring image for the partner who didn't expect it, so it's always essential to discuss introducing this particular toy to the bedroom before whipping it out mid encounter. Especially if you're a guy, had no idea, and aren't really into anal. (That's fine, by the way.) It can be a pretty freaky experience that you didn't sign up for.

Just like with any sex toy, you should discuss your boundaries, what turns you on, and what doesn't with every new partner BEFORE you jump into the sack - especially if they've hinted at their interest in sex toys or strap ons.

Strap ons are often associated with a fetish or hardcore play - but it's just another willy, isn't it? Both men and women enjoy being penetrated; strap ons just give someone who doesn't have a penis the option of doing the penetrating for once. When you look at it for exactly what it is, it becomes an accessible and unstigmatised strap on sex tool to heighten your bedroom experience.

 

So what's the takeaway for strap ons?

While their design may look like something out of 50 Shades, dildo harnesses are built in this way for robustness and ease of use. You don't have to grab a whip, some cuffs or other fetish type play toys to use a harness and dildo in an entirely normal sexual experience. We consider anything that doesn't hurt anybody pretty standard, so strap on away and have some penetration fun!

 

If you've been on the hunt for strap ons and don't know where to start - try these on for size. Enjoy x

Strap on Delight Strap on Dildo - This one offers a little sneaky something for the wearer too, with an inbuilt shaft inside the harness to penetrate you while you ride your partner. Fun, huh?

Stray on Joy Strap on Dildo - Starting easy? For anal play and beginners to strap on play, the Strap On Joy is, well, a joy! Ease into your fantasy play with an inoffensive 3.9-inch shaft.

Big Ben Strap On Dildo and Harness - Need to bring out the big guns? They don't get much bigger than our Ben - now in strap on dildo form!

7.8 Inch Strap on Dildo - If you want a bit more curve in your dildo, this one is for you. Great for massaging all the good spots.